Girlfriend's Boy Advice - The GF guide to summer romances.

January 31, 2012, 12:00 amGirlfriend

Whether you’re happily coupled up, you’ve met a hot summer fling, or you’re afraid you won’t see your crush for the next six weeks, here’s how to help your love last past January.

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Need help making your fling last past summer hols? Pic: Duncan Robinson

THE SITCH:
You won't see your BF all summer
You’ve scored the perfect guy and summer is here! But instead of spending your days having beach dates, getting ice-cream and staying up late talking, he’s off on his family holiday to the middle of nowhere and you’re stuck playing Transformers with your little bro.

THE SOLUTION: According to clinical psychologist Dr Pene Schmidt, communication is vital in this sitch. “Talk openly and honestly with your BF about your feelings and concerns. Some couples are OK to just go with the flow over the holidays, while others will feel more comfortable setting some ground rules. Clear communication will ensure that you don’t wind up sabotaging the relationship by texting your BF every minute of the day to check that he still knows you’re his girlfriend.”

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THE SITCH:
You won't see your crush all summer
You’ve been hanging out at lunch, flirting and making jokes with each other, but now that the summer hols are here, all your hard work is ruined! Or is it?

THE SOLUTION: Believe it or not, this is a great opportunity to take your flirting that little bit further. “With social media, emails and mobiles, communication doesn’t have to stop,” says Dr Schmidt. “Just have the courage to step out of your comfort zone and make the first contact.” So send him a cute text or add him on Facebook. This is your summer to shine!

THE SITCH:
You've got an unexpected crush
You’ve seen him on your family holiday since you were five, and you sort of can’t believe it, but he’s turned into a major hottie. It’s time to make your move…

THE SOLUTION: This can be nerve-racking, says Dr Schmidt. “But ask yourself: What’s the worst thing that can happen? Even if he doesn’t feel the same way, at least you’ll know and you will have given his self-esteem a boost!” So take a few deep breaths and tell him how you feel. Go on!

THE SITCH:
You're probably going to see your ex alot over summer.
It was great while it lasted, but now that it’s over, this summer is going to be more awkward than a dinner party with Heidi and LC.

THE SOLUTION: This sitch will vary depending on how your relationship with your ex ended. Dr Schmidt says you should set boundaries. “Identify your own limits and make sure you stick to them and clearly communicate them to your ex.” That way, you’ll avoid ending up with a holiday full of death stares and silence.

THE SITCH:
You've hooked up with a guy from school while you were on holidays.
OK, so there are worse situations to land yourself in. You’ve totally scored your hot crush – the only problem now is figuring out how to go back to school as a couple.

THE SOLUTION: Make sure you’re open to some changes in your relationship when you go back to school. “When relationships are faced with new situations, it’s important to be flexible,” says Dr Schmidt. “Keep the communication channels open and remind yourself of all the positive things about the relationship!”

CAN YOUR SUMMER FLING LAST?
You’ve had the greatest summer with cutest guy you’ve ever met – it was practically a director’s cut scene from Dirty Dancing. Could he be your new BF?
First, you need to think about why you like this guy so much. Once you’ve worked that out, talk with your fling to see if he feels the same way. Dr Schmidt’s best advice is to “make sure it’s the right time and the right place to have the conversation [read: not at a family BBQ]! Be open and honest about your feelings.”

Words - Sarah Sheridan